Tim

If I were to write some key tips to a man on dating these are what they would be: Grow up and be a man. Stop using little momma's boy tactics to try and get man results. If you never had the opportunity to go through a proper right of passage, put yourself through it and go claim your manhood, the boy must die. Get out of your head. The self-simulated and usually very negative version of life you are playing in your head is not helping you, and there is no way to properly connect with anyone, especially a woman if you are stuck in your head. Quit holding back. Be all of who you really are with out fear or inhibition, you are supposed to be attractive, that means be the flame, not the moth. Don't be a wuss. Stop going around to women hoping they will somehow deliver your missing manhood, validate you, give you their approval or solve all your childish insecurities for you. Learn to fight. You are supposed to be a protector and a hunter. If you cant use your hands, knives, guns, swords and a NO.2 pencil to protect what you love in your life, somebody else who can will take it from you. Learn to dance. Not the freaky vertical sex gyrations club stuff, the kind of dancing where you have to keep the beat, know the steps and take the lead, the kind of dancing where you show off every facet of your partner's beauty and uniqueness to the whole room. Be romantic. Because it is your freak'n job and you better learn to like it. Just because you do romantic things, it doesn't entitle you to anything, nor do you have any right to expect or demand something in return. Open doors, walk on the street side, don't kiss and tell, escort her on your right (as in non-sword) side (unless it is towards the street) and do romantic things, you are gentleman it is what you are supposed to do, period. A single long stem rose is the same price as a cup of coffee or a drink at a bar, lasts longer and says more especially if you are creative about the delivery. Understand polarity and attraction. Two things that are close to neutral have very little attraction, and little bonding energy. Two things that are distinct polar opposites have massive attraction and bonding energy. You are supposed to be a man and she is supposed to be a woman, if either one of you are hanging out in the middle, you won't attract and keep a bond with anything worth while. Learn to understand emotions. Whatever someone feels is real to them and therefore valid, so don't dismiss her feelings or yours. Learn the difference between emotions, opinions and thoughts. Learn what words are proper for which emotions, you calling a pink rose red makes you look ignorant, you calling emotions by the wrong labels is even worse. Learn how to "hold space", if she needs to go through something emotionally, you handle everything else and keep the world at bay so she can feel safe and go through what she needs to go through, it isn't hard to do and you only have to do it for a few minutes at a time, women process emotions in waves and they come and go pretty quickly when they are allowed to.

Sailing, Hiking, Camping, Running, Painting

I am trying a couple very popular dating sites and I thought I would give this one a try. I had the joy recently of dating a woman from western Asia, I was shocked at how very different she was from the women I was dating that were raised in the US! I have found that foreign women are much more feminine, and very proudly so. I have come to the conclusion that due to a variety of social pressures women raised in the US try to be both a man and a woman for themselves and in relationships. Seeing as how I am strait, then dating a woman who acts like a man doesn't really work for me! I had some dear friends say to me once "Tim, you need a really high caliber woman, average and ordinary just won't make it in your world." I think that is true. The reason I bring that up is simply that I really push myself hard and I have plans for many exciting adventures in addition to the wonderful life I have already. How am I supposed to share in all that with a woman that cannot keep up physically, mentally and spiritually? You know if you are a "total ten" or not, confident, sexy, feminine, mature, mysterious, provocative, seductive, witty, inspiring, honest, caring, joyful, alluring, your body, mind and spirit are all well taken care of. You may not be all of those things and probably still rock, just not my world. MOST IMPORTANTLY: I want a woman who understands these items: 1) Womanly wiles used to drive a man to peak performance is a good thing. 2) A beautiful woman has the right to be pursued and adored, AFTER she has broken into a man's life and demonstrated that she is something that he could not live without and is worth fighting for. 3) If she is not in alignment with my mission in life, it just won't work, that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with her, she just isn't the right one.

Caucasian/White

150 lbs (68.0 kg)

Divorced

No children at all

Caucasian/White

Hazel

Brown

Bachelors degree

Professional

Christian

Light/social drinker

Do not smoke

English, French

Yes